5 ways egg donors can prepare for independent legal advice

Lisa Feldstein Author

Ideas for egg donors to consider prior to their meeting with a lawyer

Here are several crucial points to keep in mind:

Carefully Review Your Contract: We strongly recommend that donors thoroughly review their contracts in advance. This entails reading every word to ensure accuracy and clarity. If there are any factual inaccuracies or areas of uncertainty, it's crucial to address these concerns before signing. Donors should never feel pressured to sign a contract they don't fully comprehend.
Identify Desired Changes: Keep in mind that these contracts are not rigid, and the initial draft is rarely the final version. In our experience, over 99% of egg donor agreements undergo revisions following independent legal advice. We encourage donors to actively engage with the contract by pinpointing areas they would like to see amended. Donors should be prepared with questions and proposed changes, so they can be addressed effectively.
Consider Confidentiality: Confidentiality is a significant aspect to contemplate. While some donations may remain entirely anonymous, certain contracts may allow for future contact. Even with anonymous agreements, donors should consider whether, in the future, the child may learn about their donor-conceived status. In the case of open contracts, it's crucial to think about how and when information will be disclosed and who will be involved in the process.
Future Relationships: Beyond the immediate donation, it's important to consider the implications for future relationships. If donors are currently single or envision future relationships, they should reflect on whether and when it may be relevant to disclose their past egg donation(s). This disclosure should occur without breaching the contract, highlighting the importance of thorough consideration.
Open and Honest Conversations: To streamline the process and prevent unnecessary legal complexities, it can help if donors engage in open and honest discussions with the intended parents before our meeting (if they are already known to each other). Ensuring that everyone shares the same understanding of the plan can help avoid misunderstandings and potential breaches. Flexibility in the plan can also be vital in case circumstances change.